Couples therapy to overcome conflicts that arise during the vacations
This is how couples therapy helps to resolve conflicts that arise during the holiday period.
Vacations usually invite us to think about rest, leisure time or even fun and new stimulating experiences.
However, it is not all advantages; for some families and couples, this change of habits and the fact of spending much more time together can make conflicts more acute. That's why, in this article we will take a brief look at the ways in which couples therapy helps to overcome conflicts that arise during the holiday period..
How can couples therapy help you?
As its name suggests, couples therapy consists of assessment and intervention tasks to to provide solutions to relational problems that are affecting a marriage or courtship. It is a form of psychological intervention organized in several weekly sessions that must be attended by both members of the couple, and lasts a few months.
Conflict resolution is one of the pillars of this type of therapy.It is not limited to what happens during the meetings with the psychologist; part of our work as behavioral science professionals consists of "training" people in skills such as discussion management, proper communication, frustration and anger regulation, and more.
In other words, going to couples therapy does not mean having the arbitration of a psychologist who will help to resolve arguments during the time of the session; it also teaches to internalize and apply these skills at home, between sessions and once the psychological assistance process is over.
How does couples therapy help to overcome conflicts that arise during the vacations?
In couple's therapy we always offer personalized attention adapted to each case, and that is why not always all the effective techniques and strategies are applied to help overcome conflicts, but only those that are necessary according to the situation.only those that are necessary according to what has been seen in the evaluation phase.
That said, let's see what are some of the most useful resources used in couple therapy to help people who argue too much or do not know how to give an outlet for their clashes of interests.
1. Teaches you to detect the material causes of arguments
Many times, when arguing, we tend to assume that the problem is in the other person's way of being, we tend to take for granted that the problem is in the other person's way of being, as if the cause of the problem were something that has spontaneously arisen in his or her mind.We often tend to assume that the problem is in the other person's way of being, as if the cause of the problem were something that has spontaneously arisen in his or her mind.
However, more often than not there are elements of the environment or situation that cause at least in part this conflict, and facilitate the emergence of a conflict.and make it possible for it to arise again and again in conversations.
In couples therapy we help people to pay attention to these signs that something may be influencing from the context, and to take this into account (regardless of whether or not it serves to excuse someone's behavior).
2. Helps improve anger management skills.
The ability to channel anger and frustration. is key to managing couple's conflicts well. Therefore, this is often one of the areas of intervention in couples therapy.
3. It allows to harness the assertiveness
Many conflicts arise as a result of not having a good level of assertiveness, that is, the ability to say what is necessary at the right time, even though it may be uncomfortable or may feel bad, trying to adjust the message to what we know about the other person, showing empathy.
Sometimes, there is a tendency not to want to go through that bad experience and we hide what is important to be communicated, so that sooner or later "sooner or later" the other person will not be able to tell us what is important.So that sooner or later it "explodes" causing discussions and unpleasant surprises.
4. It helps you to combine your individuality with your life as a couple.
Vacations are a period in which it is normal that everyone wants to be able to devote himself to what he likes.. For that reason, knowing how to negotiate the times and the activities is fundamental to have a healthy couple relationship.
5. Train in the use of active listening
On the other hand, it is essential both to really listen and to let know that we really listen..
Demonstrating to the other person that what he or she says has value has a great effect on the maintenance of the emotional bond. For this reason, couples therapy teaches us to follow the principles of active listening.
6. Teaches an even distribution of activities.
Finally, another of the most relevant factors to prevent and manage conflicts has to do with not overburdening one of the people in the relationship..
Achieving a balance of obligations and responsibilities has a very positive impact on physical and mental health.
Looking for psychotherapy services?
If you are interested in professional psychological support, we invite you to contact us. At Psicotools we have been working for years in the areas of care for patients, families and couples, and training for individuals and companies.
You can count on us in person at our center in Barcelona, and also online by video call.
(Updated at Mar 28 / 2023)