Do you really know what self-esteem is?
Self-esteem problems can be expressed in many different ways.
One of the most frequent issues that we encounter in consultation is self-esteem. Many times we believe that we have mastered this issue but it is not so, because the self-esteem is an aspect as complex as fundamental for the care of our mental health..
How is self-esteem configured?
The base of all self-esteem is given from our beliefs and values. Therefore, we should focus more on what we want for ourselves and not on what we should be, since we often try to please others. we often try to please the other person by acting or behaving as a person we are not, losing part of our essence, our personality, our personality and our self-esteem.We often try to please others by acting or behaving like a person we are not, losing part of our essence, our authenticity.
This point seems fundamental to us, because when we try to be something we are not, we end up paying a very high cost for our mental health, since we are constantly acting or wanting to be in a way we are not, we can end up abandoning ourselves.
Self-esteem is built from our early childhood.. Social relationships, our upbringing, our learning matrices influence its construction. It is modified and molded according to the environment, to the bonds we establish with others, so it will be dynamic and changing throughout the different stages of our lives. Consequently, my experiences are also changing.
Many times, people find it difficult to identify this phenomenon, and they come for consultation due to symptoms such as anxiety or depression, which are masking a negative self-esteem without the sufferer realizing it. without the sufferer realizing it.
It is important to take care of how we feel, as this is what will accompany us during the course of our lives, both with ourselves and with our relationships with others.
How to detect these problems?
Some of the symptoms that can help us to become aware of low self-esteem are thoughts such as: "I am not self-confident", "I do not like myself", "I do not relate to others as I would like to", "I feel guilty", "I envy the lives of others", "I am always aware of my weaknesses", etc.
Self-confidence is fundamental to contribute to our healthy development in all aspects of our lives: work, personal and family life, family life, work and family life.work, personal and family life, in my introspection? If I don't strengthen my own belief, who will?
Self-esteem as a need
When we talk about self-esteem we base ourselves on Maslow's Pyramid; this is a theory of motivation that explains what drives human behavior.. It consists of 5 levels ordered hierarchically according to the needs we go through.
1. Biological Needs
These are vital needs for survival, the fundamental biological processes (breathing, eating, sleeping, sleeping, drinking water, watering, etc.). (breathing, eating, sleeping, drinking water, feeding). They are the most basic in the hierarchy, when they are satisfied we move to a second level.
2. Security Needs
We all need to have some sense of security in our lives. When we talk about security we refer to personal security, physical security, job and resource security, family security, health security. We focus on feeling protected in various aspects of our lives.. This level has to do with the expectations we have.
3. Affiliation Needs
These are social needs. This is where our emotional ties, our social relationships, are found. Here empathy plays a fundamental role..
This need is continuously present in our daily life when the desire to get married, to have children, a job we like, social acceptance, etc., appears.
4. Recognition Needs
It has to do with how we value ourselves and how we value others.. The confidence and security we have, our own acceptance.
At this point is when we talk about self-esteem, feeling good about ourselves, having a good self-concept, recognizing and valuing our achievements. When these needs are not met, we feel inferior and worthless, and a bad self-esteem arises.
5. Self-Realization Needs
This is the highest level of needs and the most different, since this is where our spiritual, moral and moral development is found. here we find our spiritual and moral development, our purpose in lifeOur potential to achieve a fuller life and reach happiness. It is the most unique and subjective need of each person; in order to achieve it, it is necessary to feel good about oneself, to value oneself and, most importantly, to accept oneself.
The pillars of self-esteem
To deepen this theme of self-esteem we recommend to start to know ourselves better, take a moment and think about how we feel about ourselves.Are we happy with ourselves, do we do what we like, are we satisfied with the life we have built, would we change anything? Wrong beliefs about ourselves only result in a lack of confidence and a negative self-concept.
There are three fundamental pillars to work on self-esteemAt the cognitive level "what I think", at the affective level "what I feel", at the behavioral level "what I do". These three planes are fundamental to create a good self-esteem, since it is important that they are in harmony.
How to boost it?
We recommend several ways to increase your self-esteem:
On the one hand, do not dwell on the past, as this cannot continue to condemn you in the present and even less in the future.
On the other hand, believe in yourself, in your capacity, in what you are, in what you think. You are the protagonist of your life and you write the script and decide how the next scenes of your life will be, and who will accompany you.
Do not mistreat yourself, do not harass yourself, if you don't like something change it, but don't stay in this punishing yourself over and over again..
Finally, celebrate your achievements, no one else but you knows what it took you to reach your goals and objectives in life. Give yourself the value you deserve over and over again thinking positively, you are worth a lot.
Learn to love yourself
We are here to help you deepen your self-esteem. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact PSiCOBAi.
(Updated at Mar 28 / 2023)