How to find out if your ex-partner still loves you

Signs that show there's a chance he or she still has feelings for you after a breakup.

Usually, after a breakup, one of the two parties could be left with the intrigue of knowing if the other person still loves them. Love relationships are a complex subject, and the obvious is not always what it seems.

Sometimes couples break up and it is in that interval of time apart that they realize how much they miss the other person, and decide to try again. Of course, this is not an exact science, and it is not what happens in all cases.

In this article we will review some of the signs to know if your ex is still in love with youand give some indications on how to proceed in these cases. Of course, we must keep in mind that regardless of our suspicions we must always respect the decisions made by the other person, even if it means cutting the relationship completely.

How to know if your ex-partner still loves you: several signs.

The question of how to know if your ex still loves you is answered mainly by looking at the non-verbal signals sent by the other person. As the saying goes, "it is not necessary to speak clearly to tell you that I love you".

Let's see what these signals are, but keeping in mind that love and attraction are not the same thing; it is very common that an ex-partner still feels attracted to you and even wants to get back into a relationship and does not do it for love but because she feels lonely or wants to get back to her old life.

1. Keeps present

If, despite having ended the relationship, the other person continues to be noticed in your daily life and this is not due to his or her obligations or responsibilities, this is an indicator that he or she is still attracted to you and wants you to notice this. he or she is still attracted to you, and wants you to notice it..

For example, if you coincide very often in some places and this is not explained by the neighborhood in which he lives or by the circles of friends with whom he socializes, this may not always be casual.

2. Try not to lose contact

When the other person insists on keeping in touch after the breakup through text messages, calls to ask trivial questions, and even more indirect contact, such as reacting to posts on your social networks, this hints at attraction. They are an indicator that the person might still have feelings for you..

3. When other people talk to you about him or her

This criterion refers to the fact that when some friends you have in common with your ex-partner start talking to you about that person in a suspicious way, as if they want us to do something to resume the relationship, with phrases like "you were a nice couple", among others...

This particular behavior may not be casual, since many times when an ex-partner wants to come back, tries to get others to help him/her to regain the relationship he/she had before..

Caution: feeling nervous is normal

Be careful not to confuse nerves with a sign of love in these cases.in these cases. The uncertainty and ambiguity in which the relationship finds itself (once it has ceased to be one of a couple) can generate anxiety, and this is independent of whether or not you love the other person.

How should we act in the face of this possibility

In case of perceiving these signs from our ex-partner it is normal that we may feel confused about it, especially considering the time that has passed since the breakup.especially considering the time that has passed since the breakup. The best thing to do is always to take things calmly, without acting rashly.

We must remember that although these are pretty clear signs that our ex-partner still likes us, there is a possibility that this is not the case. Also, taking the time to reflect on our feelings and whether we want to give that person another chance should always be the first step.

After we have determined how we feel about the possibility that the person still likes us, we proceed to get out of the doubt. Using assertive communication we will talk to our ex-partner and raise the possibility of seeing him/her. and we raise the possibility of seeing each other in a quiet place. Once there, we express our doubt openly and ask him/her to give us an answer. This will help to close the cycle of uncertainty that may have existed on both sides.

After having a clear answer from the other person, we express our thoughts and feelings about it (which we have already meditated on before).

What happens next?

Having listened to what the other person has to say, and having stated our position on the matter, we will feel that a weight has been lifted off our shoulders.

Regardless of the answer the other person gives us, or the answer we give to them, after that moment it will be much easier to move on with our daily life, return to our routineWe will be able to return to our routine or find new ways of living.

Without the anxiety that could generate us not knowing clearly what was happening, even after having closed that cycle, the relationship with that person could evolve, and we could begin to see it with different eyes. A friendship could develop from that moment, or it could also happen that we realize that the best thing for both of us is to go our separate ways. In either case, the uncertainty and anguish will dissipate.

It is healthy for us to be honest with how we feel, but at the same time to face the reality of things and see them as they are really happening. see them as they are really happening, and not as we would like them to happen.. Final considerations

In these cases the most important thing is to give ourselves the value we have, and not to allow our own feelings to play against us. Many times it happens that the person we have fallen in love with turns out to be negative for our lives, and compromises our mental health. When this happens we must review the facts well, avoiding cognitive biases that may exist, taking into account our feelings towards the other person.

Remember that your peace of mind is non-negotiableand that relationships are there to make us believe as people, not to limit us.

Bibliographical references:

• Fehr, B., Russell, J. (1991). The Concept of Love Viewed From a Prototype Perspective. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
• Laurie, Timothy; Stark, Hannah (2017), "Love's Lessons: Intimacy, Pedagogy and Political Community", Angelaki: Journal of the Theoretical Humanities, 22 (4): 69-79.