Valentine’s Day in the age of social networks

Valentine's Day goes hand in hand with an increase in the number of breakups. Why?

A holiday for lovers, in which it is customary to extol the feelings already expressed towards our partner, or to express those we have not said to the person we are attracted to, in which we also take advantage in passing on social networks to show everyone your love, affection and meaning to the person to whom it is addressed, and where sales certainly register one of the biggest moose in the economy of each country. That's Valentine's Day. But not everything is positive.

In 2004 scientists from the University of Arizona found a sad fact about these dates: the high rates of love breakups that fall in the week leading up to Valentine's Day and the week immediately following it.and the week immediately following the holiday.

Of course, you can not say that Valentine's Day leads to a breakup in relationships, but ... how such a special date becomes a threat and becomes a test of the strength between a loving relationship?

The double-edged sword of Valentine's Day

We are involved in a world in which social networks reign, in which even a photo of an acquaintance or stranger can become a threat.

In some people the influence of social networks is felt even more on Valentine's Day, since their use leads many couples to make comparisons with each other. many couples to make comparisons with each other.. This sometimes becomes a good reason to end a relationship on weak grounds. However, I clarify that the networks are not to blame. Why? For the root lies in dissatisfaction, which is manifested in the expectations we had about our relationships.

When comparing those actions that are perceived as "failures" on the one hand, and what are considered "ideal" partners on the other, it may seem "intolerable" to stay together. A reason to think "my partner is not giving me the treatment I deserve" appears.

Going beyond one-sidedness in relationships.

But why is it that the comparison in search of a partner can become so important to us?

It's not because someone posts something on Facebook or shares a story on Instagram, it's because some people may already possess their own unrealistic expectations about themselves, about other people and about how a loving relationship between two people should be. As a result, the world of human relationships becomes a mirror: people try to see themselves through the way others treat them..

Given this, it is important to remember that each couple is happy in their own way and completely different from the rest. Let us remember that our partner opens up a new world for usThey bring their skills, experience, knowledge, love and also their flaws into our lives. It is not limited to being a container in which we pour our expectations and need for recognition that we already carry with us, nor should it allow us not to feel alone on days like Valentine's Day, which are nothing more than social conventions created largely by a whole marketing apparatus.

As a professional I recommend maintaining a commitment to the ability to truly love and be loved.We should be grateful for the person we have chosen as our partner, and not only on a special date, since being fully grateful is a way of appreciating what we have. I invite you to make use of gratitude in this intrinsically rewarding process of mutual discovery.

Bibliographical references

• Le, Benjamin ;. (January 27, 2015). Business Insider. Retrieved from Science Of Relationships : http://www.businessinsider.com/why-valentines-day-ruins-relationships-2015-1