Hyperpaternity: Navigating the Dynamics of Multiple Paternity

Today's families have fewer and fewer children, of their own free will or through no fault of their own. Children are the center of the home with parents willing to give "everything", without measure, without limits to see their children grow "happy" with everything they did not have within their reach, or to satisfy all the " needs ”that society creates for us. The intention is good but wanting perfect children with all the opportunities can be expensive in the long run.

• This concept characterizes parents willing to give everything to see their children happy with everything that perhaps they did not have.
• Hyperparents are overprotective, they do not hold them responsible, they pave the way ...
• A child must learn to make an effort, assume consequences for their actions, make mistakes, get bored ...

This parenting model is called hyperparents or "helicopter parents." It is postulated that we should put aside the and start practicing the or "healthy neglect" for the benefit of our children.

It is a very narcissistic idea, as hyperparents show how perfect they are as parents and show, like a trophy, how perfect their children are.

Within this spectrum, are the steamroller parents: the child does not make the road full of obstacles, but they prepare the way for them to be a path of roses.

Hyperpaternity lies in the fear of making mistakes with our children. Overprotection is the common denominator. This lies in fear and fear paralyzes and does not let us trust our children. They are capable of much more than we think despite their parents. The overprotection of children has an underlying message: "you can't"

New paradigm

It seems that the parenting model has changed, it has taken a 180º turn. Society has gone from having parents who left their children freer, more at their own pace, paying little attention to them ("furniture" model) ... to having families worried about what else to offer their children, giving them a metric attention that can reach the end of veneration ("altar" model).

This new paradigm is related to new realities for hyperparents: early stimulation, extracurricular activities, opposing the figure of the teacher and no tolerance for frustration. In turn, this new style of parenting is taking ahead vital aspects in the vital development of children such as the acquisition of autonomy and responsibilities, a culture of effort and little time to play (and get bored) so that they discover the world for them themselves.

What is good for your child and a hyperparent does not consider

• Let him make a mistake and assume the consequences.
• Strive to achieve merit.
• Do not bring him the social work that was left at home and that he had to deliver today.
• Don't do his homework.
• Bored ... (It is a source of creativity)
• Have whole afternoons to play freely.
• That your son is losing the soccer game and not shouting from the field to the referee.
• Take your own backpack
• That the young person go alone to enroll only in the university

What I shouldn't do with my child

• Overprotect it
• Educate him in fear
• Fill it with extracurricular activities
• Justify it
• Ask for permission

What I should do with my child

• Give him unconditional love: with his defects (which he has) and virtues
• Trust the child
• Make him responsible
• Know him and let him know me
• Relax
• Smile and have a sense of humor

Remember that

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