Why men love bad girls
Difficult and independent women, instruction manual.
Those girls who never answer calls and leave you on "read" on WhatsApp. Those girls. Even if we do things right, they are women who rarely pay attention to us: to them we seem almost invisible..
In the end, we make a mess of ourselves and we keep thinking that we are to blame for the situation: "Why doesn't she call me?", "I'm too little man for her", "I don't understand anything", and similar laments.
Bad girls, a guide to understanding them
There are many women who believe (and they are not without reason) that the female sex has been unfairly treated for centuries, and that even today girls must deal with many prejudices and comparative grievances with respect to men. It is a frustrating feeling to see that you have fewer opportunities in life because of something as arbitrary as being born a woman.
In the area of love relationships, women have also suffered a lot.. They have been treated as little more than objects, used to procreate, violated and ignored. With all this cultural background, it is not strange that inequalities continue to exist and that some believe that they should act as a "complement" to their boyfriends or husbands. This is a totally erroneous idea, but it still exists even in the 21st century.
Obviously, more and more girls are shedding these stereotypes and deciding to act autonomously and freely..
Women who assert themselves... perhaps a little too much.
Have you ever met a "bad girl"? They are those women who take their independence to the ultimate consequences. Okay, it may sound a bit harsh to refer to them with a negative adjective ("bad"): after all, they have every right to act as they see fit, don't they?
But, what is undeniable, is that guys (or gay girls) who pretend to have a sentimental relationship with these bad girls end up completely unhinged, bewildered and not knowing what is going on around them.
Why do some men pine for bad girls?
In another article of Psychology and Mindcalled "Dark Triad: why women prefer tough guys", we already realized that there is something in the personality of "bad" men that especially attracts women.
But this may not only be a phenomenon that helps men be more attractive and captivate women. It can also happen the other way around, there are also "Dark Triad" girls who are starting to impose their standards.
The attraction to complicated relationships
Humans often tend to attempt impossible ventures. We like to play the protagonist of the Odyssey and try to achieve absolutely heroic goals. It may be that there is something in that psychological background that drives us to have a predilection for those love relationships that are more complicated.
To tell the truth, no one likes something that everyone can have without effort.. We are like that: we like what is exclusive, what has cost us sweat and tears to have. It's a bit pitiful that we have this taste for the exclusive, especially when it comes to material goods. After all, a utility car gets you to the same place as a spectacular sports car. But...
This works in a similar way when it comes to finding a partner. We become obsessed with those people who make it difficult for uswho make us suffer and who give us a hard time and a hard time. We have this point of masochism, and we cannot avoid it.
Good women and not so good women
Many women have realized that being nice and accommodating to their boyfriends is a bad business. All they get is ignored and manipulated by them. The "not so nice" women have simply learned to play with other cards..
These types of girls are usually characterized by being more independent, autonomous in their love life, proactive and uninhibited. They have a life beyond being tied to a man, they have varied hobbies and passions. If we look at it a little bit critically, we can also say that bad girls can be elusive and detached..
How do these types of girls act?
I would like to clarify something: I don't want to make any value judgments about "good" or "bad" girls, even though these are the labels. Everyone has every right to act the way they want, and no one should judge anyone else..
Nor is it about promoting the habits and attitudes of "good" or "bad" girls. I simply want to describe some trends and reflect on them, or at least serve as a starting point for you, as a reader, to ask yourself some questions.
Relationships are always difficult. It is possible that, if we stop to think about the rise of the mean girls, we may realize that, perhaps, we have been victims or executioners of this type of relationship on some occasion.
Through a total of five keys, we can try to understand the psychology of difficult women and the reason why they seem more attractive to us, in general.in general. And, of course, we will know why they hurt us so much.
In the end, women who meet these characteristics have incredible virtues: they love themselves, they are demanding in their interpersonal relationships and they know that, in this life, the most important thing begins with taking care of oneself.
Law 1: Attraction is based on authenticity.
They don't need to be women with super exciting lives to have us crazy about them. They are simply girls who don't give much importance to having a boyfriend.. They are natural, they are the way they are and they are not going to adapt to you in order to please you. In any case, adapt yourself to them.
Law 2: Challenge
What challenges us, is more valuable.. When we feel we have control over something or someone, we may lose interest. But when being with someone challenges us on a daily basis, attraction increases. Some girls know this and use it.
Law 3: They like each other a lot
Bad girls like each other, and a lot. This attitude allows them to be perceived as such by others as well: as very valuable, self-confident and seductive. This is the basis of everything: women with this personality know how to attract dozens of men.
Law 4: They accept loneliness
The women we have described are also distinguished by one characteristic: they are not afraid to be alone. This differentiates them from "normal girls", who tend to believe that they must be with a man to be happy. They, the bad girls, know that their life is more important and that their life should not be based on the company they keep.
Law 5: They assert themselves
We men know that there are some "girlfriends" who may be available for a long time to meet us and satisfy our desires. There is nothing wrong with that. But bad women never agree to that. If you don't prioritize them, you have nothing to do. There is no way they will agree to see you if they notice you are using them.
Some conclusions about these women
There are several guides and books that talk about these girls. Each person is a world and mean girls are neither better nor worse, just different. They are so different that they can make a lot of guys lose their minds over them.
Have you ever met a "bad girl" in your life? How was your experience? You can tell us about it in the comments section or in our social networks.
(Updated at Mar 28 / 2023)