65 questions to get to know your mother better
A selection of questions to better discover the person who brought you into the world.
Our mother is one of the most important people in our lives..... Valuing her, appreciating her and listening to her is something that all of us should do on a regular basis. If we talk to her and pay attention to her we may be surprised.
The experiences she has gone through and how she has been able to overcome them can help us to improve our personal life, that is why it is very important to ask her advice whenever we need it. Many of us may not know our mother in the depth that she deserves and this is something that, without a doubt, we must change.
Questions and questions to ask your mother
Below we have selected the 65 questions to get to know your mother better. Many of these questions can help you know more about her and also give you a broader view of yourself.
1. What is your proudest moment as a mother?
Every mother has been proud of her children at some point in her life, so telling us about your proudest moment can take us back to your childhood.
2. Do you have a favorite travel memory?
Travel is always interesting, our mother must have had her own adventures before she had us.
3. Tell me about a day or event you wish you could relive with you.
Certain days mark us for life, a birth, a wedding or some other celebration can always be worth remembering.
4. What was your first experience living away from the home you grew up in?
Emancipation is often a complicated situation; knowing how our mother experienced it can provide us with useful information on how we should prepare for it.
5. Tell me about the first movie you remember going to. How much did a ticket cost?
The first time our mother went to the movies may have been quite an adventure for her. I'm sure it will be a moment she will remember and enjoy sharing with us.
6. What's the best thing Dad has done for you? What have you done for him?
Relationships can be complicated in certain situations, learning how our parents overcame those situations can be very useful in our lives.
7. Do you have any health problems that you have never told me about?
Certain things are often difficult to discuss with our parents, but this may be a good time to find out about them.
8. Did you have any traditions with your friends growing up? What about fun family traditions for the vacations?
Traditions are usually very important to any family, we should all know the traditions that our family has always done.
9. Is there anything in your childhood that you wish you could have changed? Why?
Our mother's childhood may not have been perfect, knowing how she lived it will help us to know our family history better.
10. What was the highlight of high school for you?
We all had some great moments during high school, and I'm sure there was at least one in particular worth telling our children about.
11. What was the most popular song when you were in high school? What kind of music did you like to listen to?
Knowing what music our parents listened to can help us get a better idea of what society was like at the time.
12. Who was your favorite person to hang out with when you were a teenager? Why?
The friends from our childhood and adolescence we will remember all our lives, maybe our mother still has them today or maybe not.
13. Tell me about your worst date.
We've all been on disastrous dates and our mother must have had hers before she had us. Ask her what her worst date was and you might be surprised.
14. What were you like when you were little?
Our mother was also a child at one time and maybe she wasn't exactly what we thought she was.
15. What was it like being pregnant with me? Was it different from my siblings?
Pregnancies are emotionally very delicate moments and they all have their own particularities. Knowing how our mother experienced hers can help us when we are in a similar situation.
16. What makes you happier: someone doing the dishes or someone giving flowers?
Perhaps it is the small gestures that our mother values the most, ask her what you can do for her today.
17. How many jobs have you had in your life and what did you learn from them?
Our mother's work life can be inspiring for us. Learning which steps to take and which not to take will be very useful for us in the future.
18. What kind of car did you learn to drive in? Who taught you?
Cars are important in many people's lives, with them we achieve greater autonomy and learn what freedom is.
19. Who was your role model when you were a child? Who is your role model today?
Knowing who was the most important role model in our mother's life can teach us to choose our own role model.
20. What are your favorite smells, images, sounds and feelings?
We must learn to value the little things in life, many times it is the smallest things that help us live our day to day lives more comfortably.
21. What do you admire most about your parents?
It could be that what we admire most about our mother comes from the people who influenced her the most, most likely our own grandparents.
22. What is the best service someone has done for you?
Favors are always welcome, knowing who did a great favor for our mother can be interesting and maybe we will learn something about a close friend or relative.
23. What is your first memory of Dad? What kind of boyfriend was he?
Our parents' courtship sure had many interesting stories. It never hurts to know some of them.
24. What was your favorite restaurant or store when you were little?
Our mother's tastes can tell us a lot about her, maybe her favorite restaurant is not the one we initially thought it would be.
25. What is your dream job? Is it different from the job you dreamed of as a child?
The job we want can change over time, knowing what our mother's opinion is about the working world can be very interesting.
26. What three foods do you wish did not exist and what three foods do you wish you could eat every day?
Our mother's favorite dishes can be a good idea for a future celebration, knowing them can be very useful.
27. What do you want your grandchildren to remember you for?
A question that can tell us a lot about our mother's personality, to know how she wants to be remembered once she unfortunately passes away.
28. What do you like most about having children? What is the hardest part? And the most surprising?
Motherhood has both positive and negative aspects, and our mother will surely know all of them perfectly.
29. What do you feel you inherited from your mom and dad?
Those things that our mother inherited from her parents may also have been inherited by us, perhaps many things about yourself come from those who preceded you.
30. When I was little, what did you think I was going to be when I grew up?
Our mother's opinion of us may have changed over time, knowing if this has happened can be very revealing.
31. What is the funniest thing I said or did as a child?
Funny moments are always interesting to remember, our mother will be happy to share with us the funniest ones from our childhood.
32. Who was the first person you told that you were pregnant with me?
The people closest to our mother may also be very close to us. Knowing which people our mother holds in the highest esteem will help us to know much more about her.
33. Was I more like you or Dad when I was a baby?
A great question that many of us may not know about ourselves. Who better than our mother to be able to answer it accurately.
34. What was the most annoying thing I did as a baby?
Some babies get into mischief that can drive their parents crazy, our mother will gladly explain to us what we did.
35. How did you choose my middle name?
Our middle name may have a meaning that we do not know, this can be a perfect opportunity to discover it.
36. What were my first words?
A person's first words can be very important for their parents, knowing what our first words were will allow us to know ourselves in greater depth.
37. Did you want it to be a boy or a girl?
Maybe we weren't the sex she initially wanted, but I'm sure that didn't affect the way she treats us today.
38. What is your first memory of me?
The first memory our mother will have of us can say a lot about the relationship we currently have with her.
39. Did you discover my gender before I was born or after?
Knowing our child's gender can change many of our future plans. A moment that our mother is sure to remember and can openly share with us.
40. What made me cry the most when I was little?
Things that frightened us as children may still intimidate us, our mother can explain to us if a phobia is caused by some event in the past.
41. What television program would you watch every day?
Our mother's tastes must be important to us, with this question we will get to know a little more about them.
42. What was the first movie you took me to the cinema to see?
First times are always special and the first time our child goes to the movies we will always remember it.
43. What was my favorite stuffed animal?
Our mother will remember many anecdotes about our childhood, many of which we may not remember.
44. At what age (mine) do you think we were closest?
In childhood there will always be some age when we have been more dependent on her. Knowing at what age was that situation can help us to relive old memories.
45. What is the worst part of being my mother?
Being a mother can be a very hard job and I'm sure our mother has been through some tough situations while she was pulling us through.
46. Which TV character reminds you most of me?
I'm sure our mother thinks we look like a particular celebrity, and this may be a good time to find out.
47. Was I a faster or slower learner than everyone else in the class?
All children do not learn at the same speed, and knowing whether we were a faster or slower learner may tell us a lot about ourselves.
48. In general, did you think I was a good boy?
Knowing our mother's opinion of us can be very important to know what aspects of our life we can improve.
49. Is there anything about our family history that you have kept secret?
Family secrets are quite common, and when the time comes, our mother is sure to share them with us.
50. Have I ever done something weird as a child that scared you?
Children can scare us on more than one occasion, our mother may have experienced some really scary moments during our childhood.
51. What song reminds you most of me?
Music is a fundamental part of life and we are sure that there is a particular song that our mother associates with us.
52. What is the biggest problem you have ever had?
Knowing how our mother overcame the greatest difficulties that life imposed on her can be an invaluable source of inspiration for us.
53. How many serious relationships were you in before you settled down (if you did)? What were they like?
How our mother has chosen her partners can help us to know what kind of relationship will be most beneficial for us.
54. What was your most difficult breakup?
Breakups can be very complicated and our mother can be our best counselor when dealing with these issues.
55. How have your notions of what it means to be a woman changed throughout your life?
The role of women has changed over the years, our mother may have witnessed the changes that women have gone through and know which of them have been the most relevant.
56. Have you ever had an abortion?
Perhaps this is one of the most uncomfortable questions to ask our mother, but we may also need her advice if we are in a similar situation.
57. Is there a moment or event that radically changed the way you saw the world?
Certain moments mark our lives and knowing the most relevant moments in our mother's life will give us a more accurate view of her and her values.
58. What was the moment you were most frustrated when you were growing up?
We all have our own frustrations and our mother will also have gone through hers, knowing them first hand we can know how to try to cope with our own.
59. When did you know you were ready to have children?
Having children is a big decision that should not be taken lightly, being inspired by knowing how our mother approached this issue can help us in our decision making.
60. What is your favorite photo of yourself and our family?
Family photos can help us relive old memories and allow us to be closer to our mother.
61. What advice would you give to your younger self in your 20s? 30s? 40s?
Knowing how to get advice from the right people can help us a lot in life, our mother can be a source of wisdom that is close and accessible.
62. What would your perfect day be like? Describe it to me.
Knowing what a perfect day would be like for our mother, we can jot down ideas for perhaps a future gift for her.
63. Was she ever sexually harassed or assaulted?
A very delicate subject in which our mother can explain how she felt and how she overcame that hard moment.
64. What was life like for you at my age?
Our mother may have been through a lot and her experiences can be an inspiration to us.
65. What do you most want or wish for your children?
Knowing what our mother wants for us can be a good way to know what is best for us in the future. Our mother's advice should always be considered.
(Updated at Mar 28 / 2023)