Are you taking care of your social feed?

In part, who we are has to do with the people we surround ourselves with on a regular basis.

When we hear about healthy eating, we often think of taking beneficial foods to take care of our physical health. But... do we think about the social nourishment we are taking in each day? Are we surrounding ourselves with the right people that we are also feeding on?

Just as we are concerned about taking care of our diet and nutrition to have good physical health, we have to think about another fundamental food that we nourish ourselves without being too conscious: people.

The importance of social relationships

In the same way that there are foods that are harmful to our health and others that are beneficial and our diet should be based on their consumption, the same happens with human beings. These are part of the food we consume every day, so our "social food" or "social diet" should be based on surround ourselves with those who make a real contribution to us..

Make the following effort and think about the five people you spend the most time with. What are they like? Do you think there is something of them in you? Reflect on who on that list adds to your life, who subtracts or just leaves you as is; who will help you get to the next level you want to achieve. Do we want people who push us up or push us down?

If what you want is to achieve your goals, it will be essential to surround yourself with individuals who, in some way, help you pursue those goalsWould someone who wants to overcome his drinking problem be able to do so if his best friends had the same problem?

Every human being who passes through our lives in a more or less significant way leaves a kind of imprint on us. leaves a kind of imprint on us. So try to surround yourself with people who are role models for you, who already have what you want to achieve. If what you want is to be a more ambitious person who strives to achieve your goals, surround yourself with those who have already achieved or are achieving what they set out to achieve one day.

If you want to be a better person, surround yourself with those who do good. If you want to adopt a more optimistic attitude towards life, surround yourself with positive people, surround yourself with positive people. Artists surround themselves with artists, entrepreneurs surround themselves with entrepreneurs, drinkers surround themselves with drinkers...

The potential of the people around us: social nurturing

People can awaken concerns, be a driving force for change, teach us and make us grow. Or, on the contrary, they can influence us negatively and suck our energy. It is up to us to choose the people we surround ourselves with and to decide whether we have to make big or small changes in our social life: whether we should devote more time to those who add and less to those who do not, or, if it is the case, to stay away from those who are toxic, to stay away from those who are not, to move away from those toxic people who detract from our potential..

Whether we want to spend more time with individuals in our social circle or get closer to those who can help us achieve what we want, the key is to show a sincere interest in the lives of others. To do this, you will need to talk to them on a regular basis so that the relationship is strengthened.

To improve your social skills, you will have to take into account, initially, certain key points:

• Learn to listen.
• Learn to give compliments.
• Ask and share experiences, feelings and opinions with assertiveness.
• Do not judge what people say to you.
• Take care of your body language to show interest.

Let's not forget self-esteem

In addition to the above, to know how to surround yourself well and consciously choose your social circle you must first learn to be happy with yourself. If you do not think about yourself and respect yourself, it will be difficult for you to build healthy relationships, because you will be looking for in others what you do not think about yourself. you will be looking for what you lack in others in a way that is not very adaptive.. When, on the contrary, you know that your happiness does not depend on others, you become more aware of which relationships contribute to you and which do not, and you will develop the ability to better choose the environment from which you nourish yourself.

Therefore, you must learn to gain confidence in yourself and in the decisions you make, to accept yourself as you are and, when there is something you want to change, to work on your own personal development from respect. In short, you will have to learn to love yourself. Your self-esteem, inner strength and joy will be good allies to be a more attractive person and you will have an easier time approaching whoever you propose.

To a greater or lesser extent, whether we like it or not, it is a fact that people influence us, either positively or negatively. We are social beingsAs such, we learn by vicarious (or observational) learning, that is, we learn by observing what others do; and we do this from an early age. The cognitive process that comes into play is the projection of oneself onto the actions of others.

Don't let chance decide for you the social circle you surround yourself with. Be responsible for choosing who you are going to nurture and who you are not going to nurture. Stay away from toxic people who suck your energy and surround yourself with those who water and make the seeds you sow grow. People who even sow other seeds in your own path so that new shoots grow.