What is being lithsexual? A little known way of living sexuality
What does it mean to be a lithsexual person? Let's see what this way of living relationships consists of.
When we fall in love with someone or, at least, we feel some kind of attraction towards a man or a woman, what we would most like in the world would be that he or she reciprocates, that is, that he or she feels the same way we feel for him or her.
There are many times when love is not reciprocated, hurting us in the depths of the soul to most mortals, but there is a small group that just this is what they want.
There are people who are attracted to people who do not reciprocate and, at the moment when it seems that they do, they go and stop being interested in them. These are the lithsexual peoplepeople with a curious pattern of sexuality that we are going to talk about next.
What is it to be lithsexual?
Sex has been a taboo subject in our society for a long time, so much so that to this day we continue to be surprised by some findings that scientists make about what human sexual behavior is like.
If heteronormality was once considered the only healthy form of sexual behavior, today we understand that homosexuality, bisexuality and asexuality are other equally healthy realities, although there is still a long way to go and many prejudices to overthrow.
Any professional who is dedicated to the treatment of sexual dysfunctional diseases, both in men and women, must know the different sexual inclinations and also the paraphilias of all kinds. It is only possible to offer a good treatment understanding that sexual behavior is diverse. and taking an open view of the problems that patients may present.
One of the lesser known sexual behaviors is lithsexuality. It is an atypical pattern of sexual behavior and, in fact, people who identify themselves as lithsexuals have a rather peculiar behavior towards those for whom they feel attraction: their desire is kept alive as long as the other person does not reciprocate. This word is considered synonymous with lithosexual, lithromantic, lithoromantic, acoisexual and acoirromantic.
A lithsexual person is anyone who feels desire or attraction for another human being, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, but does not want to have a "real" or consummated relationship. If at some point the person for whom they feel attraction begins to show signs that they want to reciprocate that desire, then something really curious happens: the lithsexual ceases to be attracted to that person. His desire is based on platonic love and, if that platonic love becomes real, the desire simply ceases to exist.
Understanding this, we can understand that lithsexuality is somewhat ironic. While most people dream that the person they fall madly in love with will one day love them back, lithsexuals seem to wish just the opposite. When lithsexuals are attracted to someone, they have no need for that person to reciprocate. and, in fact, they find the situation of rejection or indifference on the part of the other person even stimulating, maintaining this desire or attraction for the other person without mutual attraction.
Unlike idealized love, in which there is a minimal hope that someday it will become a reality, the lithsexual person feels satisfaction simply by the fact of desiring someone without being desired. They don't want or need anything else, because if they did, the magic would vanish. There is no frustration or discomfort, since the lithsexual is not interested in succeeding in conquering the person he/she is interested in. There is no masochism either, since he/she does not seek suffering.
Origin of the term 'lithsexuality' and symbolism.
In keeping with the curious nature of its associated behavior, the term "lithsexual" has an interesting etymological origin as well. It is a combination of the Greek word "lith", which means "stone", with the sexual ending.
The reason why this particular word has been chosen to describe this peculiar behavior is somewhat mysterious, but it can be deduced that the stone is a narrative device, a way of describing the person for whom the attraction is felt. He or she, like a stone, does not realize that there is someone who feels an intense attraction to him or her..
People who identify themselves as lithsexuals have their own symbol, consisting of a flag with five colored stripes, each with its own meaning:
- Red: society, vitality and sensitivity.
- Orange: the color selected to identify lithsexuality.
- Yellow: diversity in attraction. It represents camaraderie, loyalty and honor.
- White: idealism and sexuality.
- Black: arromantic and asexual.
Akoisexuality: the variant in men.
As we have explained what lithsexuality is, This term is applicable to any person regardless of gender identity.. Whether male, female or of non-binary gender, lithsexual is someone who feels attraction towards someone who does not correspond to him or her.
However, it seems that in recent years this word has been popularized to refer to women who engage in this behavior more than men.
As there have been people who felt that the term "lithsexual" may imply some confusion and is not generalizable to all gender identities, it was considered necessary to invent a new word, in this case preferably used for men: akoisexual or acoisexual.. Akoisexuals, as well as those who identify themselves as lithsexuals, constitute an organized collective that has its own flag, values and principles.
- You may be interested in, "What is sexual identity?"
Lithsexuality, acoisexuality and erectile dysfunction
It should not be thought that lithsexual and acoisexual people do not have the need to have sex.. The fact that they dream of platonic loves and that they stop feeling interest when they are reciprocated should not make us think that they feel sexual aversion or that this type of people do not enjoy fornicating at all. On the contrary, since there may be times when they are interested in having sex but, unfortunately, they do not perform because of a sexual problem.
Whether a lithsexual person has erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, Peyronie's disease, vaginismus, or another sexual dysfunction may seem minor. One may wonder how serious it can be that a person with this peculiar predisposition cannot use his genitals properly if he is not going to use them with another person.
In reality, this is not true, since people with this type of sexuality will use their sexual organs, especially when dreaming about the person with whom they are feeling attraction, love and desire at that moment.
It is for this reason that every professional in sexology or who deals in one way or another with sexual dysfunctions should be aware of lithsexuality, understanding that there are people who, although they do not have sex with other individuals or whose romantic interest disappears when they see that they are reciprocated, are individuals who continue to have sexual interests and who need to satisfy themselves alone. and who need to satisfy themselves alone.
(Updated at Apr 12 / 2024)